t h e i n v e n t h e r

This conversation I just had with my dad was everything. I don’t know exactly how it started, but we ended up talking about love. One of the things that stood out is this:

“One of the biggest problems with your generation is that you put professional pursuits above the pursuit of lasting love. The job market is unstable. It won’t get better. If you wait for the perfect professional satisfaction to pursue love then you’ll be single until your 40s. Then you might get laid off or lose everything. Broke and loveless. And that’s exactly what’s happening.

In my day, creating a loving relationship and family was most important. Your mom and I were broke the first three years of our marriage. I had professional goals, but I knew that I didn’t want to achieve them without her by my side. And having her by my side made the achievement more satisfying when it finally happened. If you wait until you have success to pursue your love, how do you know they don’t just want you for the success? Find your love, live modestly, build success, and in 35 years you might be satisfied like we are. Waiting around is for passengers; you want to be the driver.”